Congratulations! You're A Certified Sex Addict!

I recently came across an article written by Rachel Kramer Bussel, writer of many amazing books, editor, and producer of In The Flesh Erotica Reading Series held every 3rd Thursday's at Happy Endings over on Broome Street. She is also a noted cupcake lover as well.

I met her briefly in a most unusual way when the two of us participated at Babeland's Masturbate-A-Thon several years back that way filmed for HBO's Real Sex. Our segment is currently on Real Sex 32: Some Like It Hot and it is well....quite hot to say the least.

I say briefly because the participants that day were mostly concerned with...themselves to be honest, so i really didn't bond with anyone to say the least, however i met several participants years later through burlesque and other artistic related events. It was a strange 6 degree's of NYC separation, and throughout the years I have loosely followed her work and have seen her pop up everywhere in NYC, even gracing my burlesque show back in April.

The article in question that she wrote centered around sex addiction and it's use as a scapegoat and target. It went on to dispute a sex addiction test aptly titled Sexhelp.com Sex Addiction Screening Test (SAST)

According to her article and citing a quote from the site the test was "[d]eveloped in cooperation with hospitals, treatment programs, private therapists, and community groups, the SAST provides a profile of responses which help to discriminate between addictive and non-addictive behavior."

I decided to take this test and to see for myself if I according to programs, community groups and well-paid therapists am i fact a sex addict.

After typing in the url http://www.sexhelp.com/sast.cfm. I am immediately taken to a page with 45 questions. Before you can actually begin the test, you have to answer a few questions such as gender and sexual orientation. I am immediately thrown off by the orientation question since I really do not see the relevance but i click "Homosexual" and proceed. The questions range from topics such as participation in BDSM to purchasing magazines or visiting sex clubs. Sadly I plea guilty to all. Other than not having sex with minors and engaging is risky non-safe-sex behaiviors, i pretty much answered yes to all the questions.

When I clicked the Submit button, I was taken to another page with my scores and a chart.

My chart said the following:




Yes you have heard right! I am a certified Sex Addict scoring 14 out of 20! I was quite disappointed that there were no confetti thrown out or fanfare but I am still waiting for my watch!

After giggling like a schoolgirl at my amusement. I realized I could handle this information two ways 1) Realize that I have a problem and consult a 12 step spiritual program or 2) Laugh, Laugh, Laugh!

I really don't see the point is saying that I am a sex addict because I enjoy masturbating to porn and engage in sadomasochistic fun. Going to sex clubs, divulging in hot public sex are parts of my sexuality that I like to explore in a safe environment. Yeah sure i have fucked in clubs, cabs and LGTB centers, but they were hot, consensual and safe. Being a sexual person in CHARGE of my sexuality doesn't mean that there is a problem and at the end of the day, that is what irks me the most. Because I am sexually independent and GASP gay, there must be a problem with me that has to be treated via religious propaganda disguised as "treatment" programs.

So here is to my new found "addiction"! Let the porn stay, let the vibrators be turned on to the highest level, let the butt plugs be lubed and let me enjoy my sexuality!


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Original Article can be found here"
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rachel-kramer-bussel/am-i-a-sex-addict-are-yo_b_73768.html
Huffington Post, November 28, 2007